by Mike Rose
Any relationship between two people changes as a couple's feelings for each other develop over a period of time, and as these feelings change with life's ups and downs. Three factors in each relationship are you, the person you are relating with and the many-sided nature of the relationship. Let's see what methods there are to test the relationship and give us insights into how we might progress.
Start a Google Search at my webpage on Relationship Magic. Type in "relationship quiz" or "relationship test" and answer some of the tests that seem most useful and relevant to you. Get your partner to do the same, and check the answers you each put down. Comparing your answers will allow you both some insights into areas of your relationship where you may have encountered problems in the past.
Completing the tests will probably raise significant questions in your mind. A question for instance may ask if you are satisfied with the attention from your mate: are you still satisfied with your answer or it there more to think about? Discussing the questions and answers with each other will show you where your views and expectations are similar, or may enable you to find out where you are different.
It is important that you carry out this exercise in an atmosphere of goodwill and caring for each other as you will learn much about your relationship and how your partner regards you.
A relationship test enables us to share our preferences, aspects of each other we wouldn't normally be so open about. When we answer these quiz questions we should be able to discuss our feelings more objectively, without sounding critical of each other.
Relationship tests offer an opportunity to strengthen our relationship, and to develop positive feelings and better habits.
Saturday, April 22, 2006
Thursday, April 20, 2006
Creating relationship magic testimonial
Creating relationship magic testimonial
"Your information and tools provided in your tape and books have been very valuable for me in transforming my relationship.
Over the past few years I have read numerous relationship books to help me have a wonderful, passionate relationship.
Nothing compares to your books."
Sue Afrasiabi of Melbourne, Australia
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"Your information and tools provided in your tape and books have been very valuable for me in transforming my relationship.
Over the past few years I have read numerous relationship books to help me have a wonderful, passionate relationship.
Nothing compares to your books."
Sue Afrasiabi of Melbourne, Australia
Relationship magic
Sunday, April 16, 2006
Review of "Creating Relationship Magic"
Creating Relationship Magic
How we went from unfulfilling relationships in previous marriages to creating a truly "magical" relationship in our marriage to each other...
When Susie and Otto Collins first got together they made the most important decisions they'd ever made. They decided
*that it is truly possible for you to have the love you want in your life, and
*that they weren't willing to settle for anything less than an incredible relationship.
*that they were willing do whatever was necessary to create this relationship.
They share these experiences in their ebook "Creating Relationship Magic".
We all want more out of our relationships. More love, more understanding, more passion, more trust, deeper connections, and better communications.
Whatever you want--whether it's love, friendship, more passion, a partner on the Spiritual Path, a connected Relationship or a companion of the heart this book will help you identify how you can have it. There are some individuals and couples that have exactly the kind of relationship that they want. After reading this ebook, your relationship will never be the same again, either...
52 Breakthrough strategies for creating the kind of relationship you've always wanted and help you start getting the love you want in your life now!
With the information in the eBook "Creating Relationship Magic" , you'll discover how to identify and eliminate the biggest challenges and issues we all face in our
relationships and start creating the relationship you've always wanted in your life.
You'll discover how to ask for and get what you want in your Relationship........ why living by the "Golden Rule" doesn't work in relationships......... how to attract the
perfect mate into your life........ how to use the differences between you and your partner to make your relationship stronger instead of dividing you....... the secret to
diffusing jealousy before it wrecks your relationship....... what anger really is and the best ways to deal with it when it comes up.......... how to eliminate the most
common communication challenge and feel free to communicate openly and honestly with everyone in your life......... the most important thing you need to do to feel
understood in your relationship.......... one of the most intimate things you could ever do create a close, connected relationship with someone without having sex......,
how to keep the magic alive long after the honeymoon, and much more...
Order here, and we'll include two bonuses
FREE bonus #1: Special Report called
"Soulmates, Twin Flames and the Purpose of Relationships."
You'll also get a 2nd FREE bonus e-book called
"101 Relationship Quotes Worth A Million Dollars."
You'll also receive their no-risk, you-can't-lose, no-questions-asked, 100% money-back, guarantee.
Creating Relationship Magic
How we went from unfulfilling relationships in previous marriages to creating a truly "magical" relationship in our marriage to each other...
When Susie and Otto Collins first got together they made the most important decisions they'd ever made. They decided
*that it is truly possible for you to have the love you want in your life, and
*that they weren't willing to settle for anything less than an incredible relationship.
*that they were willing do whatever was necessary to create this relationship.
They share these experiences in their ebook "Creating Relationship Magic".
We all want more out of our relationships. More love, more understanding, more passion, more trust, deeper connections, and better communications.
Whatever you want--whether it's love, friendship, more passion, a partner on the Spiritual Path, a connected Relationship or a companion of the heart this book will help you identify how you can have it. There are some individuals and couples that have exactly the kind of relationship that they want. After reading this ebook, your relationship will never be the same again, either...
52 Breakthrough strategies for creating the kind of relationship you've always wanted and help you start getting the love you want in your life now!
With the information in the eBook "Creating Relationship Magic" , you'll discover how to identify and eliminate the biggest challenges and issues we all face in our
relationships and start creating the relationship you've always wanted in your life.
You'll discover how to ask for and get what you want in your Relationship........ why living by the "Golden Rule" doesn't work in relationships......... how to attract the
perfect mate into your life........ how to use the differences between you and your partner to make your relationship stronger instead of dividing you....... the secret to
diffusing jealousy before it wrecks your relationship....... what anger really is and the best ways to deal with it when it comes up.......... how to eliminate the most
common communication challenge and feel free to communicate openly and honestly with everyone in your life......... the most important thing you need to do to feel
understood in your relationship.......... one of the most intimate things you could ever do create a close, connected relationship with someone without having sex......,
how to keep the magic alive long after the honeymoon, and much more...
Order here, and we'll include two bonuses
FREE bonus #1: Special Report called
"Soulmates, Twin Flames and the Purpose of Relationships."
You'll also get a 2nd FREE bonus e-book called
"101 Relationship Quotes Worth A Million Dollars."
You'll also receive their no-risk, you-can't-lose, no-questions-asked, 100% money-back, guarantee.
Creating Relationship Magic
Saturday, April 15, 2006
"Creating Relationship Magic" -- testimonial
"Susie and Otto Collins are an authentic couple who share from their hearts and, more importantly, model what it truly takes to create an outstanding relationship. Through personal stories, a wide variety of books and practical ideas, they offer new possibilities for creating and sustaining the love we want in our lives. I recommend their work and appreciate their grounded generosity."
--Kathlyn Hendricks (Co-Author "Conscious Loving")
Susie and Otto Collins wrote the book from their intensely personal experience together.
"Now we know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that it is truly possible for you to have the love you want in your life. That's what we share in our ebook, Creating Relationship Magic."
The special link at top of this blog offers special extra bonuses.
--Kathlyn Hendricks (Co-Author "Conscious Loving")
Susie and Otto Collins wrote the book from their intensely personal experience together.
"Now we know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that it is truly possible for you to have the love you want in your life. That's what we share in our ebook, Creating Relationship Magic."
The special link at top of this blog offers special extra bonuses.
Friday, April 14, 2006
Relationships: Conflict Resolution Without Word
In the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to “work out problems.” Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just don’t see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling really heard and understood.
While there are some couples that just naturally see things the same way, most people have a really hard time seeing things through the other person’s eyes. What often happens when they “communicate” is that each person tries to get the other person to see things his or her way. Instead of solving the problem, each is trying to have control over how the other person sees things. This often leads to more conflict and frustration.
While I am not suggesting that couples stop communicating over problems and issues, I am offering an additional way of resolving conflict: taking loving action in your own behalf.
This form of conflict resolution is about action rather than talk. Following are some of the actions you can take that may make a world of difference in your relationship.
LOVING ACTIONS
1. Choose to be compassionate toward yourself and your partner rather than choosing to judge yourself or your partner.
Judging yourself and your partner will always lead to more conflict. Choosing to compassionately care about yourself and your partner can totally change the energy between you, even without words. If you believe that you or your partner are bad or wrong for your feelings, behavior, or point of view, then you will not be able to let go of judgment. You will move toward compassion when you understand and accept that each of you has very good reasons for your feelings, behavior, and point of view. Try compassionately accepting yourself and your partner and see what happens!
2. Choose to practice self-discipline in terms of saying nothing rather than behaving in an inflammatory way toward your partner.
Practice zipping up your mouth! Practice letting go of having to be right! Practice walking away from a conflicted or heated situation, rather than jumping into the fray in the hopes of winning. If you look back, you will see that no one wins when both people are trying to control with anger, blame, explanations, debating, defending, lectures, or compliance. However, if you choose to walk away, walk away with love and compassion – intent on taking loving care of yourself rather than punishing your partner. Walking away in anger is just another way to control.
3. Choose to accept that you have no control over your partner’s feelings and behavior, but that you have total control over your own actions.
It is much easier to let go of trying to control your partner when you move into acceptance regarding who your partner is. Trying to change your partner is a total waste of energy. Changing yourself moves you into personal power.
4. Choose to take loving care of yourself in the face of the other person’s choices.
You will find yourself wanting to talk about problems when you see yourself as a victim of your partner’s choices. However, when you accept your partner for who he or she is and accept your lack of control over your partner, you can then see your way clear toward taking loving action in your own behalf. Asking the question, “What is the loving action toward myself right now?” will lead to ideas of how to take loving care of your self. Asking, “If I were an enlightened being, how would I be acting right now?” will open the door to creative ways of taking loving care of yourself.
Loving actions are actions that support your own highest good without harming your partner. For example, if you are tired of often being frustrated and rushed because your partner is generally late leaving for an event, you might decide to take your own car each time your partner is not ready on time. While your partner might not like your choice, your action is not harmful to him or her. It is an action that stops the power struggle and takes care of your self.
Letting go of trying to change your partner and taking loving action for your self are the keys to conflict resolution without words.
About the author:
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available.
While there are some couples that just naturally see things the same way, most people have a really hard time seeing things through the other person’s eyes. What often happens when they “communicate” is that each person tries to get the other person to see things his or her way. Instead of solving the problem, each is trying to have control over how the other person sees things. This often leads to more conflict and frustration.
While I am not suggesting that couples stop communicating over problems and issues, I am offering an additional way of resolving conflict: taking loving action in your own behalf.
This form of conflict resolution is about action rather than talk. Following are some of the actions you can take that may make a world of difference in your relationship.
LOVING ACTIONS
1. Choose to be compassionate toward yourself and your partner rather than choosing to judge yourself or your partner.
Judging yourself and your partner will always lead to more conflict. Choosing to compassionately care about yourself and your partner can totally change the energy between you, even without words. If you believe that you or your partner are bad or wrong for your feelings, behavior, or point of view, then you will not be able to let go of judgment. You will move toward compassion when you understand and accept that each of you has very good reasons for your feelings, behavior, and point of view. Try compassionately accepting yourself and your partner and see what happens!
2. Choose to practice self-discipline in terms of saying nothing rather than behaving in an inflammatory way toward your partner.
Practice zipping up your mouth! Practice letting go of having to be right! Practice walking away from a conflicted or heated situation, rather than jumping into the fray in the hopes of winning. If you look back, you will see that no one wins when both people are trying to control with anger, blame, explanations, debating, defending, lectures, or compliance. However, if you choose to walk away, walk away with love and compassion – intent on taking loving care of yourself rather than punishing your partner. Walking away in anger is just another way to control.
3. Choose to accept that you have no control over your partner’s feelings and behavior, but that you have total control over your own actions.
It is much easier to let go of trying to control your partner when you move into acceptance regarding who your partner is. Trying to change your partner is a total waste of energy. Changing yourself moves you into personal power.
4. Choose to take loving care of yourself in the face of the other person’s choices.
You will find yourself wanting to talk about problems when you see yourself as a victim of your partner’s choices. However, when you accept your partner for who he or she is and accept your lack of control over your partner, you can then see your way clear toward taking loving action in your own behalf. Asking the question, “What is the loving action toward myself right now?” will lead to ideas of how to take loving care of your self. Asking, “If I were an enlightened being, how would I be acting right now?” will open the door to creative ways of taking loving care of yourself.
Loving actions are actions that support your own highest good without harming your partner. For example, if you are tired of often being frustrated and rushed because your partner is generally late leaving for an event, you might decide to take your own car each time your partner is not ready on time. While your partner might not like your choice, your action is not harmful to him or her. It is an action that stops the power struggle and takes care of your self.
Letting go of trying to change your partner and taking loving action for your self are the keys to conflict resolution without words.
About the author:
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available.
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You will also find many new ideas on relationship advice and on relationship jealousy.
Please feel free to add any comments or post any questions you have.
All suggestions for new relationship advise topics will be well received.
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